The Worry Express

authorpicThe worry express is an easy train to get on but really difficult one at times to get off of. Worry, just like a train, often starts out slowly then picks up speed as it moves along. Often, if one doesn’t get off at an early stop, it will take you to the last stop called Burnoutville.

I know this route all too well as for many years it seemed like I overthought everything and worried endlessly. I worried about family issues, job situations, money, health, life and death and just about anything I felt I couldn’t or needed to control.

I also worried about forgetting things so I made lists of all of the things I needed to do or worried I might forget. The problem was, I often forgot where I left the list then had to make a new one. At the worst of times I also made a note reminding me to check my list.

During that period of time I found it hard to sleep, eat, operate well at work and at home and all it got me was an express ticket to old Burnoutville which is a pretty crappy destination.

After several visits to that depressing town and ruining my health, I finally figured out that all the worrying I had done most likely didn’t change a thing. As a matter of fact it only made things worse.

After the lightbulb finally went on in my complicated little head I decided to try and overcome my tendency to worry so much. I started by reminding myself that I just simply can’t control everything, that I needed to trust my judgment and intuition more, turn my problems over to my higher power and simply chill the heck out.

Bottom line, some things that we think are so darned important really aren’t and neither are we. Additionally, it seems like the more we try to control things the less control we really have.

Sure I still worry at times. After all I’m only human and besides, it’s probably burned deep within my DNA anyway. The difference now is that once I realize I just boarded the train I try my best to get off at the first stop on the line. I instead skip the list and do something fun like surfing, painting or writing or anything that takes my mind off of the subject and leaves me feeling chilled out.

Then with no lists or excessive worries things seem to turn out pretty well and when they don’t big deal because I probably had little to no control over them anyway.

So if you find yourself getting on the worry express think about why you are worrying in the first place. If it’s something you can control then fix it. If not then try and let it go, get off at the nearest stop and go do something you really enjoy doing and chill out. If you do I’m sure you will be a lot happier.

Thanks for checking in this week. I hope you have a stress free one (well at least as much of one as possible) and I will look forward to seeing you back here again next week.

Aloha, Paul

About authorpaulhayden

Author, artist, screenwriter, environmentalist. husband, father, surfer, surfing instructor, volunteer.
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