If you’re so smart then…?

IMG_2764Recently my wife and I were having a conversation with an extended family relative about the TV show “Scorpion”. My wife commented that I have a IQ that is similar to the characters on the show. ( It may be hard to believe but it’s true. My mom, as well as for some reason almost every company I worked for, had me tested).

To our utter surprise the response was, “well if you’re so smart then why haven’t you done anything with your life”?

What can you say to someone that says such a thing? First of all we thought that person felt differently about me and secondly they’ve been around me enough to hopefully know better. The truth is all I could say was, “wow!, I didn’t know you felt that way”.

There was a part of me that wanted to list all of my accomplishments but I didn’t because generally when someone feels that way about you there is nothing you can do to change their minds. Besides, a person really shouldn’t have to defend themselves no matter what they do or have done as long as they feel good about themselves.

For some reason society tends to often judge people based on they social status, financial condition, celebrity status, popularity, conformity to their norms or the profession they are involved in.

It’s a shame because what we should be judged on is the type of person we are, how we treat others, our contribution to society as a whole and how we go about our lives.

Some of the best people I know or have seen are ones with little in the way of money or position. They are the teachers, the caregivers, the starving artists, the ones who always have a smile and a wave for everyone they meet even though they might be struggling themselves.

The point is to feel good about yourself and whatever you do and never feel like you have to justify yourself to anyone as long as you do. For some reason some people only feel better when they are putting someone down or feeling like they are better than someone else and we shouldn’t care what those people think.

There was a time in my life when I would have let such a comment bring me down and tried to justify myself but not any longer. I know my strengths and weaknesses and despite my shortcomings I feel good about me as well as what I’ve done and accomplished.

So keep being the unique individual you are and no matter what your status is in the world feel good about who you are and never feel like you have to apologize for it.

Thanks for checking in again this week, stay cool and safe(damn it’s been hot this summer) pray for surf and I will look forward to seeing you again here next week.

Aloha, Paul


About authorpaulhayden

Author, artist, screenwriter, environmentalist. husband, father, surfer, surfing instructor, volunteer.
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