The Truth Can Often Hurt, But…

authorpicI’ve always wanted to be about the truth in things, not that I never lied (we all have at some point even if it was to save someone’s feelings) but I never liked lies and try my best never to and to instead try and seek out the truth.

The truth is (no pun intended), the truth can often hurt and sometimes even be crippling emotionally. At times I hate hearing the truth because it had hurt so much, especially if it was  something negative about me or the family.

In the end, however, no matter how hurtful the truth is, in the end I believe we are better off for it as it helps us to improve ourselves, heal, grow and move forward.

Unfortunately I came from a family dynamics where lies were taken to a state of the art dimension. They were most likely told to either, cover up family skeletons, protect the guilty or the “good family name” and sometimes to supposedly protect us kids. In the end, however, all they did was delay the truth from coming out, which it generally always does and polarize family members which often causes more even hurt.

It seems as though at times the one most invested in hiding the truth ends up doing their best to keep all of the family members apart so as to keep everyone from sharing and possibly finding out the truth.  This doesn’t allow for healing and forgiveness which are essential to all relationships and generally cause even more hurt and continues the cycle of insanity.

As I contemplate this, I have seen the exact same things happen in business and social settings so it’s not just a family dynamic.

Believe me, I have become aware of enough family cover ups and lies and atrocities over the years to sink a battleship and some of them were real doozies. The fact is I’m still finding them out. The thing about it is, none of them (at least not yet) has killed me. As a matter of fact, they have come as a bit of a releief as I now know the truth. It has helped to eliminate so much of my speculation and doubt and I now better understand that I’m not really crazy or a simple doubting Thomas like I was portrayed as being.

In the end, the funny thing about finding the truth is that I actually now feel a great deal better about things and feel stronger for it than I ever could have imagined. As the saying goes, “Whatever doesn’t kill you will only make you stronger”.

So no matter how hurtful the truth can be seek it out and embrace it. It might be absolutely enlightening, life changing and freeing for the soul and spirit.

Thanks for checking, have a great week and I will look forward to seeing you again here next week.

Aloha, Paul


About authorpaulhayden

Author, artist, screenwriter, environmentalist. husband, father, surfer, surfing instructor, volunteer.
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