The Reluctant Risk Taker

chickenofthesea_bookcoverThe year was 1965. A nervous teenager stood on the beach at Gilgo nearly locked up with fear watching the surfers out in the water and afraid to paddle out for the first time. He had been so afraid of the ocean, in fact,  that his friends had nicknamed him chicken of the sea.

Despite his fears he plunged into the surf which to him looked gigantic but in reality was only chest high and paddled out into the lineup. After several feeble attempts he finally stroked into and caught a wave and although he didn’t stand up, the belly ride he took was enough to propel him into a lifetime love affair with the ocean and surfing.

To this day, that same man has never refrained from paddling out no matter the conditions and despite those never ceasing fears.

That same young man was so afraid of girls that he used to get sick before dates but he continued to fight off those fears and eventually not only became comfortable around women but eventually found love and later married.

That husband who was so afraid of having children because he feared he wouldn’t be a good father, eventually overcame those fears and had not only one but three children and later the grandfather of four.

Though this young man  for a time was so wrapped up with fears of so many things to the point of barely being able to get out of bed eventually overcame those fears and went on to do so many things both in his career and personal life.

He excelled in business, stood up to the system which eventually cost him his job, became a public speaker and educator, headed up an industry group and an environmental organization chapter, wrote four books, became a snowboard and ski instructor and did so many other things despite at every step being reluctant and having to overcome his fears.

What the man finally figured out was he would always have a certain degree of fear for various things most likely due to things beyond his control that took place in his life that broke him in deep ways. The most important thing that occurred to him though was that, despite ones fears, you can’t let them get the better of you and that if you can overcome them there are so many cool things you can enjoy and accomplish and that’s exactly what he has done.

Thanks for checking in this week and my hope is that if you have a fear of doing something you really want to do that you can overcome your fears also. Have a great week and I hope to see you back here next week.

If you want to find out more about that man and about overcoming fears check out the books “Chicken of the Sea” and “The Nonconformist”. (Sorry for the plug but I’m overcoming me fear of self promotion).

Aloha, Paul





About authorpaulhayden

Author, artist, screenwriter, environmentalist. husband, father, surfer, surfing instructor, volunteer.
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