Just sayin’

IMG_2764Ok I admit it, sometimes I get a little down and frustrated over things. Who doesn’t? I get concerned over things like global warming and climate change, terrorism and senseless killing, political infighting, lack of world peace, hatred and war.

Those are the biggies but there seems to also be little things to worry about like our financial well being, why won’t my books sell better, is it worth writing a weekly blog when so few people read it, why can’t I get my screenplay accepted, am I truly making a difference in the world despite my sincere and best efforts to do so. Lastly, there is always the personal family stuff most of us deal with from time to time.

I used to worry a lot about dying but I don’t anymore as I honestly feel blessed to have made it this far especially when I consider the sports I’ve chosen to pursue like surfing and snowboarding.

I also have to admit I get a bit bummed out from reading and hearing so much negative talk on the internet, TV, radio and  facebook about all of the issues of the day and from seeing how angry people seem to be about so many things. It seems at times we have all lost hope and would rather complain than try and do whatever we can to create the positive change that would make things better.

What I’ve been trying to do whenever I get into a funk (sometimes more successfully than at others), is to try and turn my thought process around, look at the brighter side of things and determine what I can do to make a difference in the things that are bugging me rather that sitting back and complaining or stressing over them.

Sure I can’t alone change what’s going on in our planet but I can do my little bit to become a better environmental citizen and volunteer my time as an environmental activist. Maybe I can’t change the hearts and minds of terrorists and evil mongers but I can at least do my part by sharing my love and compassion with others and paying things forward.

Rather than stressing over my personal situation, which I’ve come to finally realize I only have so much control over, I can instead keep on writing my books and my blog for those who do read them and  take away something positive from them, keep hunting for a potential producer to take on my screenplay and at the very least continue to sharpen my skills to make my chance of doing so better.

Most of all, I can continue to try and change for the better, be open to new ideas, be willing to compromise and do the best I can at whatever I’m doing.

I always seem to use surfing analogies when trying to reconcile life because it seems that life often imitates surfing for me. There are those times, seemingly more often than not as I get older, when things just don’t seem to be clicking for me during a session and it can easily become frustrating for me.

At those times I have a choice of paddling in and hoping my next session will be better, or staying out and making the best of it. Sometimes it’s me whose the problem as I’m either a bit slow or out of rhythm. At others my poor performance might be due to lousy wave conditions (It’s always easier to blame to conditions).

What I’ve found works for me at those times is to stay out, try and figure out a way to make the best of the situation and try as best I can to enjoy myself. Generally after doing so my performance improves, but even when it doesn’t I at the very least try and hold onto the memory of the one good ride or that I was fortunate to have gotten a good workout and blessed to have been able to surf at all. Believe me, at my age I feel blessed to be able to still be enjoying this wonderful sport and life itself.

So I leave my blog post today with the hope that whatever is troubling you won’t be too much of a burden and that you too can find that silver lining that gets you past those frustrating thoughts and leaves you with a feeling of hope and peace.

Thanks for checking in and I will see you next week.

Aloha, Paul









About authorpaulhayden

Author, artist, screenwriter, environmentalist. husband, father, surfer, surfing instructor, volunteer.
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