545513_10151068901303949_1177005509_n For the most part I consider myself to be a pretty laid back person who tries (not always so successfully) to look at things in a positive light and who is forever looking for that elusive silver lining.

The fact is though, like many folks, there are times I let the rigors of life get the best of me and when they do it sometimes takes a while or an event to shake me out of my funk. It is at those times that tensions build within me and life just doesn’t seem so fun.

The truth is times are hard for many of us these days, good jobs and especially good paying jobs are scarce, either we or loved ones and friends get sick or die, it’s difficult sometimes to make our financial ends meet and there is a lot of bad shit going down around the world.

Sometimes it’s when I’m doing something that should be really fun, but I’m not having fun doing it, that I finally come to realize I’m overwhelmed and need to chill out.

Recently while surfing, which is something I enjoy immensely, I found myself grousing over missing a couple of waves. The truth is, despite my many years of trying to perfect my craft, I’m going to have bad sessions. Hell, I’m old and there are times my body just won’t do what I want or expect it to do. Sometimes the waves are simply crappy and won’t allow me to do what I want to do.

Fortunately, after taking a deep breath, apologizing to God for complaining about such a trivial thing and reflecting on my situation, I was able to put things into perspective and after doing so was able to have fun. Also, by letting go I started to perform better.

What I realized was how lucky I was to be out in the ocean communing with nature and getting to enjoy the sport I so love especially at my advanced age (when I started out I never would have imagined I’d still be surfing, especially at a high level in my forties let alone in my sixties). Heck, there were years, while I was working full time, that I was lucky if I got to surf a couple of times a month at best and now I get to surf at least that much every week.

Anyone driving any amount of time these days or who visits facebook or watches the news knows there are a lot of stressed out people in the world. People are speeding even while texting, running red lights, playing bumper car with their cars or complaining about their situation in any format they can.

Certainly there are reasons to be stressed out but we simply can’t let them get the best of us. I know it’s an overused statement but the truth is, despite how dire our situation seems, there are a lot of people who are a lot worse off than we are.

So my advice to others is the same as it is for me. Take a deep breath, try and put things into perspective, try to find that silver lining of hope and CHILL. If more of us were able to do that there would certainly be a lot less accidents, fights or wars and we would all be a lot happier.

Thanks for checking in and I will look forward to seeing you again next week.

Aloha, Paul

P.S. If for some reason you run into me out in the water and I’m not having fun please smack me in the back of the head.

About authorpaulhayden

Author, artist, screenwriter, environmentalist. husband, father, surfer, surfing instructor, volunteer.
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