chickenofthesea_bookcover It is said that everyone has a story and I believe it to be true. Certainly some of us have a more interesting life story than others and some are better at telling it but just the same if you really think about it your story, and despite your initial inclination to think your life is pretty ho hum, it’s probably a lot more interesting than you might think.

For the longest time I felt as though my life story was pretty un-interesting until two things helped me to feel differently.

The first was when I wrote my personal story “Chicken of the Sea”. When I first started writing it I did so for my own benefit. I wanted to figure out why surfing played such a huge roll in my life and how I managed to survive growing up in a disastrous home environment and my struggles as an adult to make sense of my life and overcome my fears and insecurities.

Writing my story, though very painful at times, was both an eye opener and a form of cleansing for me. It also helped to propel me as a serious writer. The toughest part was when I finally decided to have it published. It’s very scary to have all of your personal and difficult stuff out in print. I wondered if anyone would want to read it but more importantly I worried about them judging me.

To my amazement, people read it and for the most part liked it and found inspiration from it. Also, shockingly, they didn’t judge me (at least not to my face).

The second thing that helped me to understand my story came from a work seminar. The guy who lead it was a social psychologist who wanted to help our sales team develop “Our Story” so we could understand how we could differentiate ourselves from our competitors and show potential customers how we could better help them to reach their personal and business goals.

At the time I had been in the business for over twenty-five years and had never considered how my “gifts”, as he called them, could help others.

In our individual sessions with the consultant he asked us questions concerning the things we liked to do, what we had accomplished and how we even approached things like sports. The three things he got from our discussion, that he believed made me valuable to my customers, was my ability to listen (my wife might tend to disagree) and find out what their true goals were, help them visualize what it would look like in the end and how to get there (he got this based on my ability as a snowboard instructor to help people beginners get down the hill), and to help them understand that I wouldn’t give up in my efforts despite all the obstacles. He also found I was inclined to keep butting my head into the wall until I busted through (I guess this explains the six concussions I’ve had during my life).

What I learned from that experience has helped me in numerous ways since that time not only in business but in my personal life also. Knowing ones story can really empower us and help us to understand and accept who we are, what makes us tick, how we are unique and special and in the end leave us happier and more secure.

So when you get the chance, sit down in a quiet place and think about your story and if the inspiration hits you go ahead and set it to print. Maybe it has the potential to be a best seller (mine wasn’t but it at least has sold pretty well) and an inspiration to others. But even if it never gets published at least it will be out there to preserve your story for your family and friends and help you to understand just how special and gifted you are.

Thanks for checking in and I hope you will tell me your story. I also hope you will check out my books to find out more about me. lastly, would someone please be the first to “like” my web-site/blog (even if you don’t, LOL).

Take care and see you next week.

Aloha, Paul

About authorpaulhayden

Author, artist, screenwriter, environmentalist. husband, father, surfer, surfing instructor, volunteer.
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